Baby sleep

I'm going to be honest, my Little Peanut is not a great sleeper. Neither am I. I have always been a light sleeper.  I mean I'm an "if a gnat farts I'm awake" kind of light sleeper andi think my daughter is too. I am definitely to blame, I tried to be quiet when she was a newborn napping, and at 14 months I still rock her to sleep (I know, I know....terrible for a child her age.) I am strongly against cry-it-out, mainly because I cannot bear to hear her cry for any length of time (I'm weak!)  Here's the other thing- she puts herself to sleep in the night WHEN SHE FEELS LIKE IT. it's not consistent, no rhyme or reason. Sometimes she goes right out by herself at naps. I'm so lost in this because everyone talks about teaching your child to put themselves to sleep, but Little Peanut knows how and does it when it suits her. 

       We are also still having some waking at night issues, partly due to teething, but also just as a "check in" to see if I'm still here. It's making me crazy and I look like a zombie. I'm praying that we outgrow some of this soon?